I had a great talk to my mother over the christmas break. It was one of those rare occasions when it was just us. I had left my darling daughter at home with hubby. Both were happy as they had their devices again after a week of no technology camping.
I was talking to mum about how I am reading this book: Setting limits with your strong willed child Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries By Robert J Mackenzie.
I was finding it very useful in guiding my Daughter. It seems we have a mismatch in learning styles, she is an aggressive researcher and I am a compliant learner. She will push all boundaries to make sure you mean exactly what you say each and every time. I would just do it because you asked me too.
So I have to make sure I am really clear in all my communications with her, I have to lay out the requests fully including exactly what I expect to be done, by when and sometimes even how. I have to let her know exactly what will happen if my request is not complied with and I have to follow through consistently and in a timely manner. – it just sounds so exhausting.
Mum said it sounds very old fashioned parenting, before the 60’s came along and changed the way parents were to interact with their children. I have been giving it a go and it’s working really well. I don’t want to jinx it, but as long as I am consistent and don’t lax off I think we will do very well indeed.