I got very excited as I do when I read a book and learn something new, to try it out. I had to be careful to balance out my desire to just do what I wanted to do with the need for the rest of the family to be brought along with me on my journey.
I gave a very brief summary and there wasn’t a huge amount of excitement, in fact there was a bit of resistance, surely we are already good with this, why do we need this, what will it help with? I was loosing my excitement quickly and getting quite disheartened – it was all going to be too hard.
I persevered and shared my thoughts on what differentiates us as a family.
“We are a bicultural blended family, that values connection, love, kindness and the courage to experiment. The anchors for how we live our lives is a focus on providing a central Home base for our extended family, building our faith, having fun, and constantly learning.”
This didn’t have the desired inspiration that I was hoping for, I personally thought it was brilliant. It wasn’t until I shared more details around how I know we want us to be able to have the space and resources to support any of our extended family, be that the kids, mothers, sibling when and if they are in need, that the vision was created.
I then asked the second question – what is our top priority as a family?
This was very interesting. We had very different ideas here. Which was when I elaborated on our vision, that truely did give us the clarity and help us be on the same page. Giving us a big dream and then the first steps towards it.
I got excited again, here we were on the same page, with the same understanding. It was a great lesson in building that context and the importance of wording the North Star in a way that inspires.
I didn’t quite get to the defining objectives, we have a couple but nothing in the detail I would have liked, that will have to be for next time.
And then there is the last question. – I might have to try and remind myself to bring that one up each week.